INDIANS and CHAR LOG

                         

I happened to meet a boy who recently appeared his 10^th grade board exams and within few minutes of our talks we randomly hopped on the “oft discussed” topic of the peer pressures and the stress on the school going children (especially those who are about to step on the next level of their study life and career). We were exchanging our views about the burden/stress which they are very likely to feel about their exam scores and continuous hammering from parents. Not only about scores, but he also expressed his dissatisfaction about the attitude of parents in general which is, on a serious note, revolving around the comparison of their child with those of others.

But apart from this, there was one very interesting and kind of unnoticed reality which shook me so much that for about a day or two my thoughts kept on lingering around it. And this reality was about the char log (in English which means, four people). And then a question again, who these char log are??

In India you will constantly hear people saying-

Kuch bhi karne se pehle socho ki char log kya kahege.

(Which means before doing anything think what the people around you will act/think over it.)

Guys, I don’t know who this “four people” are, whose opinion matters more than our own and more thoughtfully our parents’?

Let me make it clear, this “char log” is not any specific four people, but this common phrase is about the society around you as a whole. There has always been (from the time immemorial) the shadow of these char log haunting everyone preventing them to display themselves to the world freely. Why so? Here are frequent examples; you may find them around you.

·        Before you plot a plan for anything at your home, think about char log that will be as your guests.

·       Before you appear for exam or study, think about what will char log say if you couldn’t do well.

·       Before you make any career choice, think how this char log would react over it.

·       Bachelor people before choosing your life partner do think what will char log say.

But as human being is a social animal I agree that there has to be a sense of responsibility towards our society within each one of us. And for this no ignorance is acceptable but simultaneously we need to decide how much of involvement of the outside world is to be permitted in our life (a degree of permittivity indeed!).

A very matching instance comes from the movie 3 idiots; many will find this familiar, in which a father says to his son-

“Final year me aake Engineering chodd rahe ho, socho kapoor sahab kya kahenge!”

In English which means- you are dropping out from engineering in the final year, think what Mr. Kapoor (who is their neighbor or at most their well wisher) will say!  


                           
To which his son gave a much matured answer saying that, what matters to him more is his parents’ view and their opinion and what Mr. Kapoor will think is none of his business!

 Really why should one give up his dream bothering what others will think about him? And for all the parents I would say, for children your guidance and opinion matters more than any third party’s view. We would love to rise, fall, run, get hurt chasing our dreams because at the end we will have the feeling of fulfillment to cherish!

I don’t know what to say for those who let other’s voice overshadow their own desires. Such attitude merely displays your lack of confidence in living up to your own will, nothing else! Although nobody is completely up to his will, but shall we not at least try. Don’t we feel that our dreams and plans are most the precious things we have got to treasure? Why not let our inner voice be clearer in front of the noise from outside world, which is trying to make us deaf.

Let’s be the pioneer of this change and sweep out these very familiar but still unknown char log and their unnecessary involvement out of our lives.

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